Our final installment of this series talks about the last group of words, expressions, sayings that are important to your mental hygiene. We’ve addressed and considered those expressions that are uniting, extending, reaching like “thank you” and “I love you.” These are vital for “being a good human” and practicing compassion and authenticity. In the same light, just different corner, we talked about expressions that protect, defend and even, potentially, push away. Today, we talk about a smaller group of expressions that speak inwardly, to our conscience, our own mind, our own resolve (or lack thereof). Let’s look at how to use words wisely to Reflect.
We use words to have conversations with others and, let’s be honest, have great conversations with ourselves. 🙂 And sometimes, those inner dialogues are essential to how the rest of our day and outlook go. They aren’t just for scripting or listing or reminding. Those conversations can be motivating, buttressing and repairing. My favorite three expressions that we all need to use, again on a daily basis, are:
I don’t know the answer.
I need help.
Clearly, these can all be said out loud, to others. I often speak them out loud, but I’m talking to Katie. Sometimes, I even go find her in the mirror and say them again. The admission of needing help, of not being complete, of not knowing but WANTING TO KNOW, is enough to move my feet forward. They help me remember that I am not stupid, that I am capable, that I can do it, if I really want to. You know that darling girl who’s become a youtube sensation (rightly so), who every morning speaks with her daddy about all she can and will do, and all she is and will be? Yes, honey! That is the way to go, and that is what I feel like when I have to look at myself and say, “Katie. Now, I have something to say to you. Stop feeling so heavy and start finishing what you’ve started. Just go. Just take a deep breath and do it. Like, right now.” Cool, ok.
I mean, if Joshua can feel daunted, and need the most famous kick in the pants ever straight from God (“I command you: be firm and steadfast! Do not fear nor be dismayed, for the LORD, your God, is with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9), then surely it’s ok if I give myself a little pep talk? Also, that exclamation point after the word “steadfast” – not mine, totally God’s. Seriously.
I hope you find strength and beautiful humility in quiet reflection. I hope it brings you happiness, resolve and purpose. Here’s to using words well and wisely, towards those you love, those you barely know and, possibly most importantly, your own self.